It’s about time some of us learned how to be selfish. I know that’s prohibited and doesn’t sound all that compassionate or “churchy,” but that’s because it’s not meant to be either one of those things. Women, in particular, don’t spend enough time loving who they are and celebrating what they do. Instead we’re out here stressing ourselves to the max trying to
make our homes look like something from HGTV,
cook meals to satisfy a few picky palates,
refrain from being seen as “that employee” in the board room who goes against the status quo because you have a few non-conventional ideas,
make our selfies look like we’re having the time of our lives every weekend
and find the right outfit for a date with a stranger we’ve somehow been convinced we absolutely must impress because the holidays are coming and our eggs are vanishing one by one.
Well, that’s all fine and good until you recognize that you’re doing all of that for other people, and you’re basically a non-factor in the equation.
This week I challenge you to show up for y-o-u! It’s not a bad thing for you to want to do something for yourself…to say no because you don’t feel like it…to spend your lunch break actually taking a break…to leave people behind who choose to act oblivious of your feelings…to confront who and what is giving you pause…to believe for a dream that’s so big that you have to chuckle…to let him figure out how you manage to make dinner, monitor homework, and pack lunches simultaneously (that’s what I call bad-assery!..he has no idea)…to take yourself out for dinner and pinot because you know you’re not desperate…to go outside and let out a scream because life is hard…to get in the car and just ride with no particular destination simply because you want to enjoy the scenery…to stop apologizing for how you feel…to present your business idea to the investors…to soak up every moment for what it is and continue handling life like a boss. Every day you have to live with you. If you don’t ever invest anything into understanding what helps you to be great, everything you do, attract, and care for will be below average. So, yes, do for others, but do for you too!