Love. What is it exactly? Do you ever wonder what it means for your life? How many times have you thought that perhaps you’re missing what everyone is alluding to?
I’ve always found it interesting how we’re bombarded in multiple ways each day with suggestions as to how we’re supposed to love, but yet we’re also driven by societal boundaries on what exactly that should look like. We’re supposed to love but follow a specific set of rules to ensure we’re loving the right way? Interesting concept. So, if love to me doesn’t look like what someone else tells me it should look like, then somehow I’ve missed the mark? Even more interesting concept.
Two profound nuggets of my own truth about love:
1) You can’t hold back your love for someone to satisfy society’s “requirements” – life is short. And the more mornings I rise from the comfort of my pillow and blanket, the more I understand how ridiculous it is to not want to express your love in fear of what other people will say or think because love for me doesn’t look the way it looked for them. Yes, you can gain wisdom from the experiences of others, but love is a unique and multidimensional form of affection. That means we all don’t see it the same, receive it the same, or give it the same. In other words, if you love somebody, make sure he/she gets the memo. How crazy is it for us to believe that the people in our lives are mind readers AND that we should abide by some unwritten protocol about love to make everyone else feel better about their opinions? Are you living for you or someone else’s opinion?
2) Seize opportunities to express your love – your demonstration of love can come in a variety of ways. I’ve noticed that people, myself included, often give a small percentage of the love they have in their hearts because they’re afraid of rejection and/or how it will be interpreted. The question is are we more afraid of how our love will be received or if we’ll die with love stored that can no longer be reached and acted upon? I believe that we often regard love as elusive and intangible because we haven’t given ourselves permission to do it without fear. Just like you can’t hurry love, you can’t stifle it either.
As a poetic and sultry musician once said, “It could all be so simple, but you’d rather make it hard…” But why? My advice: love…and be love. Because if we were all honest, we’d confidently say it’s the one thing we all want anyway.